So much preparation and thought goes into your child when you have a child with special needs but it is well worth the effort. I feel that my children are better off with all the support and professional advice that we have received and continue to receive and apply as a result of their respective diagnoses than they would have been if they were any other child because it has forced me to be a more informed and conscious parent. Any of the things that I do with my boys are applicable to any other child for supporting, encouraging and helping them be the best that they can be (with vulnerabilities that they are not ashamed of).
The best advice I can give is to recommend that you make sure you understand how any particular treatment is meant to work. If a treatment doesn’t make sense, sounds like a fad diet or sounds too good to be true, ask for clarification and evidence of it's effectiveness and don’t be afraid to do some research on it yourself. Don't sign up to or pay for anything until you have looked into it further.
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"…I do not exist without autism, neither do my boys. The way my brain thinks is who I am and autism is the way my brain thinks…."
My teenage cousin Lucy (not her real name) randomly said to me one day “I think you are more affected by autism than me.” Her socially inappropriate remark made me want to laugh. My immediate unconsidered thought was that Lucy was definitely more autistic than I was….
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After writing my last post on autism stigma and Autism Speaks and commenting on the posts of others on the same topic, I began to feel anxious, depressed, faint and nauseous. These are feelings that I am accustomed to having before, during and after many social interactions in person and online, whenever they extend past pleasantries and into the murky territory of feelings…
“He sits and stares at the wall,
His mind so very afraid,
Casts a dark and gloomy pall,
Of this shadows are made…”
"…To sit and rock,
With racing mind,
How to unlock,
How to find.
What is the key,
To open his soul,
What would we see,.."
Advice is wonderful; pick and choose which strategies you and your family feels most comfortable with but avoid sources of advice that suggest that their way is the best way for everyone and/or that you will be a ‘bad’ parent or ‘practice bad parenting’ if you choose to do things differently.
There is no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ parenting, just different parenting styles and different choices by different parents under different circumstances for different children.